Since my fiance and I have been together, I have learned a valuable lesson.....typically, disagreements that lead to bickering come from a miscommunication on either one or both persons. In our case, this miscommunication is further exacerbated by my lack of being able to communicate effectively, i.e. my stuttering.
We tend to forget to breathe when we are in an intense disagreement with our significant other. Unlike other social situations where you can simply walk away from a situation when it gets heated, many times we cannot simply walk away from an argument with our other half. Even if you can walk away from the situation, it is not always a good thing. If you walk away to collect your thoughts and then reconvene under more calm conditions, then I believe that is very healthy and very conducive to settling the dispute. However, if one person walks away from the situation and does not intend on re-addressing what has happened, it will only fester and boil up inside only to come out at a later date, in a later argument.
....any way back to the point......remembering to take a moment to take a deep breath and shed some tension can be very helpful during a dispute. Especially in my case where a majority of my stuttering comes from stress on my vocal cords, taking a deep breath allows me to relax my vocal cords and speak more clearly and with less stress in my voice.
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